YOU HAVE AN EXCELLENT EXAMPLE IN ALLAH’S MESSENGER- Did not spy on his wives

YOU HAVE AN EXCELLENT EXAMPLE IN ALLAH’S MESSENGER

Did Not Spy on His Wives

Many of us experienced feelings of jealousy and suspicion towards one’s wife or husband which might lead us to spy on her or him.

A man may go back home earlier than usual or if on a trip might return earlier than expected and unannounced, might even pretend to be travelling.  All in order to catch the betraying party red handed.

Some husbands or wives might listen in on their spouse telephone conversations, or look into their mobile phones to see who called them and whom they called, at what time and for how long.  They also look into the messages to see if any of them is affectionate or even familiar in tone.

Wives look into their husband’s cloths for hair, lipstick marks, any stains or strange perfumes.

All this might not be evidence of innocence to the suspicious spouse.  They might feel that it is just a matter of time to catch them.

This has never been the character of Allah’s messenger prayer and peace upon him, to the contrary, when he returned from a journey, he waited for few hours before going home, so that his wife can be ready for him.  At that time there was no telephones or mobiles phones.  The main thing is that he did not go home unannounced.

Jabir Ibn Abd Allah Allah’s messenger’s companions said: “We were with Allah’s messenger prayer and peace upon him travelling on an Expedition, When we reached Medina and we were going to our homes, Allah’s messenger prayer and peace upon him said: “Wait for going in until dark, so that the woman who did not comb her hair combs it and the one who has been left for a while shaves”.  (B: Nekah; 10 & M: Redaa; 56)

This is the Example of Allah’s messenger prayer and peace upon him.  He would wait after his wives know of his return to Medina if he was travelling to give them time to tide themselves up, and not surprise them with his return.

One might say that they were Allah’s messenger’s wives, no like any other woman.  I say that if a man chooses his wife well, and treats her well, he would see nothing but every thing good from her.

May Allah’s Prayer and Peace be upon our prophet and messenger Mohamed and upon his family and his companions.

Dr. Ahmed Saafan